This was a banner week for helping people step into their adventure. One person in particular comes to mind. I was teaching my Advanced Coaching workshop and noticed one of the participants crying as her coach helped her move toward the edge of something really big. She was fighting a daemon that said she didn’t deserve to be in this advanced environment and was a fraud.
The story was in my opinion patently false and also that I think everyone I have ever met has some version of that same story. Overcoming the daemons that haunt us is imperative to living our adventure.
Here are 8 steps I have found helpful for my clients and their journey to living their boldest most fulfilling life. This work is based on “the Work” by Byron Katie.
Get to know your daemon’s voice. Say what they say to you out loud. What is the core message? In the example above the daemon said, “ You are not worthy to be here”. Then ask yourself:
Is this true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3)
Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)
How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
Who would you be without that thought?
Turnarounds the original statement, “I am not worthy to be here”, when turned around, becomes “I am worthy to be here”
Is that turnaround as true or more true? Find at least three specific, genuine examples of how this turnaround is true and how you are worthy to be here
I had a positive impact on my practice coachee, she told me and I saw a shift in her.
I have a reputation for being a quick thinker.
I was specifically and personally invited to be a part of this program.
What is it about this situation that you don’t ever want to experience again? e.g., I never want to feel this vulnerable in front of others again.
Now take that last statement and say “I am willing to …” and “I look forward to …” e.g, I am willing to be this vulnerable again” or “I look forward to being this vulnerable again”
What do you need to do to fully own that last statement?
I love how she ends her work with the idea that “Until you can see the enemy as a friend, your work is not done”. In the case of my student, and most of the rest of us, its important to recognized the enemy is not a person but your inner voice. Closing the loop, my participant left with her head high and claiming her power loud and proud to the whole room.